Is being in a Relationship good?
For a long time, my idea of being in a relationship was very different from what it is today. Especially as a girl growing up in India, I had this strong stereotype in my mind that having a boyfriend was almost like committing a crime. It felt like something you were not supposed to do.
Along with that, I also believed that relationships were a complete waste of time. I used to think they would only distract you from your goals and make life unnecessarily complicated. At one point, I even thought that the whole concept of being in love was a little cringe.
But life has a strange way of challenging the beliefs we hold the strongest.
• Meeting Someone Unexpected
When I met the person who is now my boyfriend, things felt different from the very beginning. He wasn’t like the other guys I had spoken to before.
He had a great sense of humor—sometimes a little lame, but still funny enough to make me laugh. He was caring and kind, but at the same time he loved roasting me, which strangely made our conversations more fun. In many ways, he turned out to be exactly my type.
Before meeting him, I only had ideas about love. But through him, I actually experienced what love feels like. Even though we live miles apart and are in a long-distance relationship, he somehow managed to give me a sense of warmth and closeness that I never expected.
• Growing Together
One thing I realized while being with him is that our lives are not just about chasing achievements or constantly doing something productive. Instead, life is also about understanding it—slowly, through different situations and experiences that we face every day.
He gave me the vision to see that.
Through him, I realized how fruitful simplicity is, more than the idea of a flashy, materialistic life. Over time, I felt like I grew as a person while being with him.
Interestingly, he didn’t just remain “my boyfriend.” In different situations, he became many things in my life—a friend, a teacher, sometimes even a guide. At times he felt like a protective parent, other times like the tech expert who could fix any problem.
In many ways, he became someone who influenced my perspective on life.
• The Unexpected Changes in Me
Being in this relationship also changed certain things about me.
One of the changes in me is insecurities. When I am outside in public, Now I don’t care about what people think of me. I’m not conscious of others’ opinions and I usually idgf about them anymore.
Being a girl, I used to get cautious about guys especially when I go out. But now I genuinely don’t care about them since I’m totally committed to one person. This is something I used to strongly disbelieve in all the time, but I realized it is actually possible to not care about other men once you’re truly committed to someone.
we get back together after our 693817th breakup loll XD i already accepted it that our lives are full of fights and sweet romance and just when we fight and get impulsive i just wait and give each other time, until we start missing each other.
I cannot control what he decides or what he chooses for his life. But what I can do is wait.